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Authority vs Submission
November 17, 2019 Fellowship/Scriptural Reflection
I address this opening to men males because many seem to have the greatest confusion on this topic from Scripture. Your wife doesn’t have to do anything you tell her to do. If your wife refuses to agree with you or obey you, there is nothing you can do about it. In countries where men have legal authority over their wives, they can execute them for being disobedient, but they still can’t make them do anything. Authority can only punish; it can’t make anybody do anything. Giving in to fear is not the willing submission of love.
Authority and submission are two completely different things. In the Biblical sense, submission is not authority. Even a brief examination of the Bible clearly shows us God prefers love over authority. Authority has only fear of punishment as a tool, whereas submission has love as its tool. Studying the New Testament demonstrates the theme of love over authority throughout its pages. However, simply reading the New Testament is an invitation to confusion due to misinterpretation. Let’s briefly unpack Ephesians 5:22.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
  22 Wives, offer your love, not obedience, to your own husband – not to all men and not to another wife’s husband. Wives, offer your love to your God – not someone else’s god(s).
   23 For the husband is head (head meaning the ultimate leadership (Christ Jesus was a servant leader, not a dictator) of the wife (of does not mean over). [A]s also Christ is head (leading, not forcing) of the church ; (which is “His body”) [A]nd He is the Savior of the body. (commentary: Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh (v.31). The husband becomes “head” of the “one body.” This is the same as Christ Jesus being “head” of the church which is “His body.” The “head” can direct but it cannot “force.”)
   24 Therefore, just as the church ( “body of Christ”) is subject (submitting) to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (meaning submitting-out of love and not fear).
The first instance of God's ordained equality between man and woman can be found in the Book of Genesis.
From the Book of Genesis, “Then God said, “Let us make man (man is used throughout the Bible and is not gender-specific) in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them (notice this is plural and not singular) have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” (notice it never says dominion over one another)  27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. 28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it (meaning from original Hebrew text “kabash” to bring into bondage, and “radah” to rule over or dominate); have dominion (having power) over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (notice it never says dominion over one another). (Genesis 1:26-28, NKJV).

Here are the seldom read, or over-looked verses by men males.
Ephesians 5:25-30
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.
Continuing to v. 33, “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” (NKJV)

Christ freely and willingly sacrificed His own life, out of pure love, for others. Using the ESV as my source — God never commands a husband to submit to his wife, but He does say that a husband must give himself up for her. This was the example Christ Jesus demonstrated – He gave Himself up for the church. A husband is bound by love to ensure that his wife finds their marriage a source of rich fulfillment and joyful service to the LORD, not to the husband but to the LORD. Husbands are to love their wives in a self-sacrificial manner if they in-fact are true followers of Christ Jesus. We are given this wisdom from Scripture in order to model our human marriage, as is the relationship between the bride of Christ (the church) and Christ Himself, the Son of God. True Believers define their life through love and not authority.
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